Happy Valentines Day my loves!
Oh yes this lovely day is finally here. Whether you’re celebrating with your significant other or chillin’ by yourself you should be enjoying it. Candice and I have agreed to celebrate together and have some best friend time because I believe that Valentines are not just for the couples and romantics but to celebrate and let the ones in your life know you care about them. So do not feel down or bad about this day, it is a LOVELY day. 🙂
Oh singleness. It really isn’t that big of a deal in my eyes because I’d rather be happy with my cutie of a cat, Rocco than mixed up with someone who does nothing positive for me. And I encourage you to do the same because no amount of roses and chocolates can make up for a bad relationship. I do not understand how people “just date” and don’t take it seriously. We are putting our heart, feelings and personal selves out there and letting just anyone take it? I don’t think so. And when you have something heavy like a diagnosis, it can really throw a wrench into the system. I dated someone for three years who I thought was picture perfect and it was for a while. We were both 18 when I was diagnosed and things forever changed. He “dealt” with it and you could tell it was a heavy burden. After a breakup we decided to give it another try convincing ourselves that there was a reason we kept coming back to each other. This time things went smoothly until a little over a year later. I began to struggle with this mental part of the disease, work and school and he was not a person of support to say the least. He could not handle what my body permanently is, what I will be dealing with and refused to acknowledge that there is even a mental struggle. And a couple of days after Valentines, he ripped my heart out and moved on.
THANK GOD for that! It sucked for a very long time then I realized how great I actually am. I’ve discovered what I’m capable of and I don’t feel like I have to hold a part of myself back. I don’t have someone around constantly making me feel as it I’m not enough and bashing everything I love. I’m surrounded by such new amazing people who truly love and care about me and its a fantastic feeling. I don’t really care where he is or what he’s doing and it feels so fantastic not to feel…or care. My daily life is no longer an emotional landmine.
Bottom line, don’t trick yourself into thinking they accept you, love you and they’re THE one. Step back, take a breath and evaluate the red flags no matter how hard that may be. Save yourself before it’s too late. Emotional hurt is a pain that isn’t easy to heal and if you’re with your loved one appreciate and do for them as much as they do for you. It’s about giving and loving rather than taking. Always tell the truth, always be supportive and guard your heart. Most of all, just LOVE. That’s all.